This post is dedicated to my creative, strong, protective, loyal, talented, muso husband.
A wise friend made this remark when I celebrated my first wedding anniversary. “That’s a milestone in today’s society!”
Tomorrow is our second year anniversary and we get to celebrate another milestone in our journey. This is the reason why couples post wedding anniversary updates on Facebook. It is a day that is worth all the celebration and toasts and gift giving.
Last night I reflected on how things have progressed since our wedding day.
This week there were many times where we did things that annoyed each other. There were also many times where we had the opportunity to get upset and angered due to late nights at work, early mornings and failed plans.
After working late the day before and having to do a 4.45am airport run, I was irritable due to the lack of sleep.
He on the other hand had to wait at the airport for a quarter of an hour when he too was tired because my project deadline was on the same day and I had to rush to get work done before I was able to pick him up.
In our first year of marriage, we would have been letting out our frustrations on one another. This time, we chose to look past the conflict, reducing arguments that would not have been productive, instead focusing on keeping the peace in our relationship.
Things have changed for the better. Time is one of the reasons; another reason is because we are both young and malleable. I am a huge advocate for young marriages. I believe that this is something that people should strive for and here’s why.
Memories are collected together from the very start of your journey.
There is a support system for achieving your goals. You also get to start working towards them sooner.
Personalities are more malleable and you grow to tolerate each other.
Your goals and aims in life start to converge and you have two instead of one working in synergy towards the same outcome. There is strength in a cord of two.
You have less emotional baggage to work through with your spouse.
You have more time to work out differences before starting a family.
This is not to say that I think marriage at a young age is superior, but this is a case for those that are apprehensive about tying themselves down at a young age. There are a lot of benefits to it, so just go ahead and do it!