This time last week, I turned 25.
People around me have mixed views on turning 25. To some approaching 25, it is terrifying and scary. To others who have passed the mark of 25, it was the best year in their lives. Some say 25 is the time to dream big dreams, 30 is the time to start working towards your dream. Others say I had imagined myself achieving a lot more by that age.
I did not have to go through quarter life crisis (If you want to know what a quarter life crisis is, read this – 25 signs you are having a quarter life crisis) because I went through one at the 23 – 24 age mark. This is how I knew I had a quarter life crisis:
- I imagined myself doing the work that I was doing at the time for the rest of my life and wanted to bang my head on the wall
- I started asking myself – “I’ve got a job, I’ve got a career, but what is my calling?”
- I was so eager to make a difference in the world but my current place did not seem to be taking me anywhere
- I seriously considered a 180 degree career change
- What I considered my dream job back in university ended up getting complete revamp after receiving a reality check
- I resented certain choices I made that had been dictated by family and society expectations
- My best friend posted an article on my Facebook page after a rather honest conversation titled “Quarter Life Crisis: 25 disappointments that you deal with when you turn 25”
- I realised that change had to happen because the pain of staying the same was greater than the pain of change
Change happened. I moved countries. I quit my job following a huge emotional upheaval because the notion of quitting your job and ditching security is a very foreign concept in my culture.
Change was the best thing that happened to me.
Now I look forward to work. I love the people I work with. I love the type of work I do. I love that my work allows me to make a difference in the business world. I love that everyday I am helping businesses get better at what they do, give customers a better experience and employees better work satisfaction.
Change is possible. Change takes time and courage. Change always happens in a trickle; drip, drip, drip.
A quarter life crisis (or a mid-life crisis) could happen to you at 23 or 25 or 38 or 50. If and when it happens, embrace it. Be comforted in knowing that this crisis will not last long, and having survived it will make you a much bolder, stronger, better person.